When it comes to dating, not all of us can be experts at Mr. Right and Mr. Wrong. In fact, throughout our lives, we’re most likely going to make poor decisions in terms of who we decide to date. It’s all a learning experience until we find the right one—or the right one for us at that point in our lives. Over the years, we’ve been told expert advice from friends, family, and even complete strangers on how to find “love.”
But, how do we know what advice is the best advice? Well, obviously, implementing the words into our own romance and love lives can help us truly decide what piece(s) of advice are truly worth listening to. And, if you’re struggling to find the right one for you, maybe implement these into your daily life.
If your gut says he’s not the one, don’t stick around for no reason. Trust yourself to know what’s best for you and know it’s okay to move on!
“You shouldn’t fully hate someone for figuring out what they need to do to be happy, even if that means you lose them.”
“Love can’t always be perfect. Love is just love.” Yes I know, it’s from a classic JLo flick “The Wedding Planner” but it stuck with me throughout my teens and into my twenties. Love can’t be 100% easy, or perfect, flawless whatever, nor can the person you love. It can’t fix every problem you’ve ever had or will have, nor can the person you love. Love is wonderful, and amazing and if you’re lucky it will add so much to your life, but never think it will be everything. I’ve learned that even loving someone and having them love you doesn’t mean it’s meant to be and having love doesn’t mean your life is complete. Love is just love.
When I was young and first started dating someone, I would always delete their number everytime they called, that way I knew they were interested in me and by the time I had their number memorized, I knew I was interested in them.
Keep your independence and always be yourself. Be confident in yourself because you never know when love is right in front of you. My husband was a friend of a friend. We had dated for 361 days on our wedding, twelve years ago and we are still very much in love.
Don’t try to change anyone. If you go into the relationship thinking they need fixing, you don’t actually want to be with them. You want to be with an idea of what you think they could be.
You will be the worst to the people you love the most because you know they won’t leave you. Remember that when you are angry and can’t believe how you could feel that way about someone you love.
Do not. Under any circumstances. Ignore red flags. You are never that lonely and you know they won’t go away. Trust your instincts and walk away if something doesn’t feel right.
Being in a relationship isn’t 50/50, it’s 100/100 you have to be all in to make it work.
Don’t look for someone to complete you. Look for someone to compliment you. You are complete all on your own. Shel Silverstien’s “The Missing Piece Meets the Big O” taught me that from a very young age and rediscovering that book after a bad break up was a life saver.
The best advice I got was that sometimes loving someone isn’t enough to make a relationship work. It seems extreme, but makes a lot of sense. It can be easy to fall in love but making a relationship work requires dedication, trust, loyalty, respect, and a lot more. Just because you love someone doesn’t mean you’re supposed to be together.