In today’s day and age, women seem to be doing just about anything they can to keep a man around—even if that means changing who they are. For some, being with someone who constantly picks at their appearance and criticizes them is better than being alone. But, one doctor is pointing out that being with this kind of person can be dangerous.
Canadian gynecologist Dr. Jen Gunter shared a post on her blog about how dangerous it is for women to use products to “change the scent” of their vaginal area. Many women feel insecure about the natural smell of their body—so much so, that they’re willing to use products like Vick’s Vapor Rub to make it smell…like you have a chest cold.
The doctor said, clearly:
For what I am sure is the 100th time the vagina needs no cleaning and the vulva needs very little.
She even shared her own experience of dating someone who didn’t like the “smell” down there.
I once dated a guy who insinuated my vagina did not smell right. He was an ass in other ways too, but I just didn’t see it until he impugned my vagina. For example, he though my hair would be better if it were straight. Sadly I took the bait, it wasn’t. He thought I would look better if I dressed a certain way. Again I took the bait. I just felt worse. When it came around to telling me how my vagina could be better it finally clicked that this is a form of control that men often use.
Fortunately I am an appropriately confident vagina expert and I had a light bulb moment and dumped his sorry ass. I realize this may border on TMI, but honestly if it happened to me I bet it has happened to other women. The continued proliferation of the what will they insert next, the products on drug store shelves, and the interest in these posts tells me that I’m probably right.
She also added that some smells may be a sign of something more serious, and if you feel as though you may have a medical condition, you should see a doctor.
If you think you have a medical condition, see a doctor. If your partner insinuates that an artificial smell is preferable to the smell of a normal vagina they are the one who has an issue. Telling women how they can be better is a classic way of tapping into body image issues and honestly in my personal opinion it is a form of abuse.
And, we totally agree. No man should make a woman feel insecure about their natural body and if they do, you should definitely find a new man.