Being a vegan in a family full of meat-eaters is probably really difficult. No matter what holiday it is, you’re always having to specify what you can/can’t eat, in order to stay fed and have a good time. My sister happens to be a vegan, and I know she usually has to prepare her own food when going to friends and family’s houses for big gatherings, because she knows they won’t go out of their way to make something “special” for her—except, of course, my mother, who always prepares a vegan dish everytime we get together, so my sister feels accommodated (my mother is the greatest, right?)
But, when a vegan is inviting people into their home or throwing a party of their own, should they be expected to serve meat? I mean, they’re not going to eat it, nor do they support purchasing/cooking/eating meat, so why would they provide meat?
Usually, people are accommodating and understanding that everyone is entitled to their own beliefs. Some people want to save animals, others do not. But, we live happily in harmony knowing that despite our eating habits, we’re family.
Apparently, not everyone feels this way. One bride recently posted in a vegan Facebook group that she’s planning on banning her friends and family who are meat-eaters from her wedding because she doesn’t want to deal with the drama and headaches—and, host “murderers.”
She wrote in the Facebook post:
“When your ‘family’ tries to guilt trip you into letting them come to your fully vegan wedding, even though they’re omnivores.
Just for some context, some family members were told they are not invited to my wedding because we don’t want to host murderers. Our wedding is supposed to be one of the happiest days of our lives.
They have consistently attacked me and my partner just for being vegan, but when it comes to my wedding they want to be all buddy buddy again. When I broke the news to them, all I got was attacked because I don’t want the weight of having people that still kill animals (the very beings we are trying to protect) at my wedding on my conscience.”
Many people on Facebook disagreed with this woman, despite all began vegan themselves. They said that she was “crazy” and out of her mind for banning her friends and family from her wedding just because they are not vegan. Some said it would be right if she had an only vegan menu, and allowed them to come and partake in being vegan for the day—but, banning them all together was wrong.
So, she issued a follow-up statement saying:
“I posted in here because I thought I would get some understanding from the people doing the same thing as me. I have tried to educate these people for more than 2 years with no result so I’m not putting up with with it at my wedding of all days when they probably will cause problems there too.
I’m not sorry if that makes me “rude” or “a b***h” because I am not compromising the ethics that I share with everyone here.”
After being judged so harshly, the bride deleted her original comment in the Facebook group—and, will probably have a very lonely marriage to her husband now that she’s cut out her friends and family. Ouch.