Throwing kids parties can be very expensive. No matter how small you try to make it, most party places or stores that have the option to host kid’s parties have fees, fees, and more fees. That’s why I always tell people to throw the party in their backyard and BBQ—keep it simple and sweet. You save money and you avoid the intense drama of the “moms.”
One Reddit user recently shared a story to the parenting channel, asking if the behavior of a birthday girl’s mother was “weird.” Apparently, her child was invited to “Build-A-Bear” for a birthday party. The party was small (8 kids total), but, after all the children built their bears, there was a pretty strange twist.
Earlier today I went to a birthday party for my daughters (6) friend from school. The party was being held at Build a Bear, but it wasn’t run by the employees. We had cake and pizza in the food court, then went down to BAB to make bears, then back to friends house for the rest of the party.
The invitation said each kid (about 8 total) would get to make a Bear, and I just assumed they would get to take them home, since that is what happened at another BAB party I went to. Me and my husband even pitched in about 30 dollars as we know these things can get expensive.
We get to the store, and the kids go wild getting their animals and accessories. As far as I know the parents didn’t really put a limit, but I made my daughter stick to just a standard dog with a shirt, which about half the parents did as well. All is well, we leave the store, then friends mom announces that the kids need to give all their animals to her daughter. Cue the upset and angry kids. They all disappointingly handed over their animals, and friend wasn’t even being nice about it either. Another little boy didn’t want to, and friend ripped it out of his hands. I probably should have said something, but I didn’t. The other parents seemed pretty baffled too.
We get back to friends house and our kids are watching as friend plays with all her new animals. I left with my daughter pretty quickly, and once we got back into the car she just started bawling. I felt bad so we went to build a bear and got her a new one.
I’m just wondering if this is totally normal and I should have expected this, or am I being an entitled parent?
In my personal opinion, I think it’s weird that the mother would make all of the kids give her daughter their bears—she didn’t pay for them and they probably gave the girl a gift already. Also, the kids personalized them and made them their own—why would the birthday girl even want them?
Many people on Reddit agreed and thought it was totally rude and strange to ask this of the young children.
That is really weird!! I can’t believe the parents made all the kids give away their bears.
I would’ve assumed that the trip to Build a Bear was the “activity” for the party. Better watch out if she invites to a future party at an indoor amusement park, you’ll have to surrender all your game tickets to Precious so she can get the best prizes for herself.
Wow. I gave our daughters a build a bear party once too and never would have even imagined keeping everyone’s bears! That is brutal.
That was cruel to the kids attending the party. I don’t believe in buying things to make kids stop crying generally, but in this case that was totally appropriate and I’m glad you did. This was an emotionally abusive thing to do to a child that age.
I think the person that this is worst for is the birthday girl. The other kids are going to hate her (and clearly at her age it is the parent’s fault, but they won’t get that.) This will get around the school, and kids will not want to play with her and certainly not go to her parties. That poor kid.
This is disturbing. It sounds like something the Dursleys would do to Harry Potter.
I definitely think that this was a bad idea from the get-go and these parents need to completely rethink the way they plan parties (and raise their child).