Everyone has called someone a psychopath at one point or another in their lives. Sometimes, we call someone a psychopath when they’re acting crazy and annoying. Other times, serial killers and murders are called psychopaths. But, what does it truly mean to be dealing with someone who is a psychopath? And, how do we know exactly when we’re dealing with one? As it turns out, professionals have shared numerous ways you can tell that the person you are dating, friends with, or even working with is a psychopath.
1. They’re irresponsible.
According to professionals and research, psychopaths have an inability to take responsibility for their actions—especially when they are at fault. They do not feel comfortable when someone calls them out on their poor behavior, so they usually put the blame on someone or something else. When they do admit they are wrong, they do so because they have no other option—however, they hardly mean it and will not change their behavior for the future. Instead, they do it to get themselves out of hard situations.
2. They’re very overconfident.
Psychopaths tend to think the world of themselves. They are bleeding confidence that can sometimes even come off as cockiness. They brag and constantly boast in front of others, even when they are unaccomplished in a specific area. This can come off as almost condescending and also arrogant. It becomes obnoxious and annoying the more you surround yourself with it.
3. They’re incredibly selfish.
How many times does this person put themselves before anyone else? Often times it’s hard to see that a person is incredibly selfish because we always want to do what’s best for us and our lives. However, psychopaths do this to a point where they don’t mind screwing over others to get by and get what they need. It’s incredibly toxic when in a relationship with someone like this, as they will hardly ever put your needs or you first before themselves.
4. They can sell ice to an Eskimo.
Psychopaths are known to be incredibly charming and be smooth talkers. They can talk to anyone, anywhere, at any time and win their way into a circle or group. They are great at making themselves known in a crowd and creating a presence around themselves. They thrive to be the center of attention, but also to create a long-lasting impression on people. Sometimes, we forget that the ability to be a good “schmoozer” can also be a negative personality quality.
5. They lack long-term goals.
People who are considered psychopaths have no desire, or no ability, to plan ahead. They look at the future as a “possibility” and convince themselves (and those around them) that living in the “now” is what is more important. They think that it’s easier to plan for now than in the future. But, when they do have hopes for the future—even if for a moment—their goals are unrealistic and hard to attain. They cannot see things in a realistic setting. You may know someone who wants a job that is totally out of their ballpark in qualifications and possibilities, but they’ve convinced themselves they will get it. That’s a tell-tale sign.
6. They think they’re better than everyone else.
Psychopaths tend to be pretentious and think that they are above everyone else around them. At work, they think they are better than the boss. In relationships, they think they give way more than their partner. While it’s a sign of confidence, psychopaths are expert manipulators and try to control others by being the “superior” one in the conversation. It can be hard to combat when having an argument with someone like this due to their expertise in flipping the situation and turning it around onto you.
7. They have no guilt and no shame.
When we do something wrong and we hurt someone, we always feel bad about it. Some of us feel worse than others—but, there’s no denying we feel somewhat ashamed for hurting another person. Psychopaths, on the other hand, don’t feel much remorse or shame for their actions. They tend to cause chaos, problems, and hurt and then sit back and watch it unfold right in front of them.
8. They have shallow emotional reactions.
Many people cry when someone dies, or when something horrible happens to them. But, psychopaths don’t react “normally” when it comes to their emotions. Situations that would usually involve pain, sorrow, tears—they don’t provoke the same kind of reaction from psychopaths. While we might cry when a loved one dies, psychopaths tend to react less emotionally.